Saturday, March 17, 2012

On True Love: Why Parents Don't "Truly" Love Their Children, And Husbands Don't "Truly" Love Their Wives


True love is unconditioned, knowing no "reason", "cause", or 'because'.

Parents love their children because they are their children... They obviously don't love all other children out there as their own... And -even if they would- they would do so because they are children, and not something else... Obviously, they wouldn't love grown-ups as much as they would love children: especially their own... And sometimes they don't even love all of their children to the fullest possible extent, and with the greatest possible love that their heart could give, but rather they prefer some of them over the others, loving some of them less, while others more... And even those few that love all children as if they were their own, prefer the cuter, smaller, nicer, more obedient ones over the others...

In other words, not even the greatest love known to man, namely that between parents or grand-parents and ( their ) children or grand-children, is the true love that the Scriptures talk about... the love that God freely pours out of Himself over all creation... the love that created the Universe... the love that brought everything from non-being into being... the love that destroys everything... the love upon which the world was established... the love that beget the Son and poured forth the Holy Spirit... the love of the Saints in Glory... the love that Christ poured from the Cross over his mockers, tormentors, and executioners... the love that springs as if from the bowels of the earth... the love that destroys everything...

But what then shall we say about the ( true ) love between man and woman ? It is even less worthy of the name, even in its purest and most profound form ! ( After all, when push comes to shove, one can divorce one's spouse, but one can never, ever, "divorce" one's children: no matter what the circumstances... ) Not even the transfigured forms of eros, which are infinitely deeper than even the so-called "true love" for one's spouse, cannot match the other-worldly beauty of agape, but pale by comparison, as dwarves along-side titans: and I'm not saying this to be "poetic"... Regardless for what reasons a man loves a woman, what matters is that said reasons do in fact exist... even if they are selfless, and noble, and pure, they are not non-existent...

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